I do not know of any wife who does not want to take care of her home to best of her ability. I know I want to excel in what I do at home. But we know that homemaking does not come with a store purchased manual that is carefully laid out of all we should do and how we should do them. Of course, there are helpful tips and tricks out there from various authors. But as each home and family is different, then each homemaker must find the best means to take care of her home.
In my quest to do better at home, I am starting a new series called Biblical Homemaking. This series is based upon scriptures from the Bible that will show us the characteristics of a good homemaker. It is a great way to stay focused (at least try) and to practice what the bible requires. Hopefully, we all can work on a character each week to help us be better at home.
The first set of characteristics I want to address for Biblical homemaking is laid out in Titus 2:3-5.
The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things; 4 That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, 5 To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed (KJV).
The verses address married women (with children) and their responsibilities at home. They are to cloth themselves with these characteristics:
- being sober (self-controlled)
- loving their husbands
- loving their children
- being discreet (modest, decent)
- being chaste (pure)
- being keepers at home
- being good
- being obedient to their own husbands
I have to say, that I have read these verses over and over and over again but these characteristics do not come easily. The list is not long and it really is not overwhelming, but the natural being wants to do things in his own way, and never God’s way. God has commanded the older and more experienced women to model good examples to younger budding wives and mothers. Older women must first live lives that are holy and reverential before God before they could come alongside and encourage, help, and support.
These first set of characteristics all seem to be dealing with mental soundness and stability which are essentials for keeping it together at home and managing home well. Why? Because there are so many outside forces that tell us otherwise. Homemaking is not valued for what it is worth. So if our hearts are and minds are not in it then we are setting up for failure. We can have houses, but that’s all they will be, houses. It does not matter if we are homemakers who stay-at-home all the time or who go out to work, it is still our responsibility to do well and thrive at our homes. Contrary to popular demand! Making our houses homes for those who live in them is no small task and that is why we need some stability. We cannot be successful if we lack that mental soundness and stability. I love this little quote from Nancy. She says,
You can’t love your husband and your children if you don’t have sound thinking. Because when they are not loveable, if you don’t have sound thinking, you’re going to respond in unloving ways (Nancy Lee DeMoss).
So true though. But to have mental soundness at home, here are a couple things we need to do:
- we first need to be sound in our personal relationship with God. He is to be the center of our homemaking. I know I could never keep up with anything if I do not have God’s help. Let’s face it. Daily, I see my weakness at home with not only house work but with family.
- and that is where prayer comes in. Proverbs 3:5 and 6 admonishes us to trust in God with all our hearts and to acknowledge him in all our ways. It may seem like a small thing but we truly are helpless and need all the help we can get as homemakers.
I by no means, have it all together. The daily struggle is real. But there is hope in the Lord. Whether you are a young homemaker or a seasoned one who could teach me a thing or two, the key is to focus on building good characteristics that would help us be better at what we are called to do.
What characteristics are you working on at Home today? I would love to know your thoughts in the comments!