Are you already burned out with all the pressures of the holiday season? I mean from Thanksgiving to Christmas, these two seem like they just go back to back without a moment to breath in-between! Isn’t it that way in reality, though?
On Monday evening, when hubby came from work he immediately wanted to know how my day went. It was a little more than the casual, “so how was your day today?” Rather, it was more of a “really wanting to know” how the day went. He had called me earlier during the day to check on me but my phone was on silent. So of course, I missed him three times! Yep, I am so guilty of keeping that phone on silent.
You see, over the weekend, I had crashed. For the past few weeks or even what seemed like months, I knew I was stretching myself way too thin – more than I could handle. My body was telling me to slow down, but I did not listen. After all, I had to get “stuff” done, right? And the approaching holidays were not making it easier on me either. And of course, I did not need a planner or rather, did not keep up with the one I had. After all, I just could not have as much “stuff” to do like other larger, well organized, busier families. Right? Wrong!!!! I “had” to do the shopping, the baking, the cooking, the hosting, the decorating, the late night blogging, you name it! What is even worse, is that my family was not getting the best of me. My kids homeschooling and activities were neglected; my family’s mealtime was kind of whatever I could find, and our health was neglected. And boy was I cranky!!!!!!!! And as for God, don’t even ask! Making time to soak in His Word and call out to him was just not happening. Yes, there was the quick 1 minute prayers and the quick reading of a verse or two. But that was about it.
But when at 35 weeks expecting my body decided to crash, I had no choice but to give in and slow down. I kept on feeling nauseated in the early mornings and I knew I had already passed that stage. It was my body telling me that I was doing way too much! I had gone to a ladies Christmas breakfast outing over the weekend and when I got back home I was totally worn out! I knew it could not have been just the breakfast because I rode along with someone. It had to be all the non-resting days I had been allowing myself NOT to have previously. And boy was I really going that week. There was a previous birthday for one of our kids 2 days after Thanksgiving; there was the OB doctor’s appointments; we had hosted a church family get together the night before the breakfast, and another friend had come over for a few hours in the previous morning. And there is always the cleaning and preparing when folks are coming over – no matter how small a group.
But I was worn out. My hubby and kids needed me and I just could not move another muscle. I could tell that the kids needed my attention – but all I could say was, “mommy is tired and needs to rest a little”. Thankfully, hubby was willing to watch the kids some more while I got some rest (he had already watched them that morning while I was at the breakfast). When I went to the room to lay down, I could hear the little footsteps running down the hall. My kids were coming. Hubby came by and shut the door and took them back out to play in another room. But then the restless legs kicked in. And if you have ever suffered with restless legs syndrome during pregnancy, you definitely know how miserable you can feel. It can definitely keep you awake for hours and hours no matter how much you try to move your legs to relieve it. I even used some essential oils to help my legs relax. After about an hour or so of trying to sleep to no avail, I got up and went out to the living room. I crawled up under some cozy blankets on a couch. I decided I would just rest there a little and watch the kids play and just enjoy the Christmas lights on the tree and maybe even flip through a Christmas magazine. Needless to say, I fell asleep out there on the couch for about an hour and a half. Hubby had put the kids to nap too, so there were not all the extra running around and noise making in the house. Hubby even got us take away dinner that evening because I just could not keep up. The whole day, I was physically worn out.
I felt a “tad” better after I napped but felt tired and nauseated again when I went to church on Sunday. And what do you know, I still went to another friend’s home to make DIY Christmas gift tags on Monday morning! Yes, I did not take the day to stay home. I had considered whether I should cancel the outing because I knew how tired I had been over the weekend and did not want a repeat. But I also did not want to disappoint, either. And I thought it would be fun to go craft with other ladies.
But the thing is that I did not feel tired on Monday at all. It was as if my body had recuperated. Only to find out, that I had a loving hubby who cared enough to take time to pray for his over-tired wife. He went to work and knew how tired I was over the weekend, so he took some time to pray for me throughout the day. Hence his pressing need to really know how I did on Monday when he came from work. Praise the Lord for husbands who pray for their wives and praise the Lord for a God who answers prayers!
So I decided that something had to give.
- I had to decide that I was not going to run around shopping and driving myself insane for the season.
- I had to decide against hosting blog parties and linkies that took way too much time to create.
- I had to delete from many Facebook blogging groups that was just too much to keep up with.
- I had to decide that I was not going to host guests over for a while (just makes me too tired although I love doing it).
- I had to decide to settle down and take time to nurture my family.
- I had to decide to take time for my very own health and unborn baby.
- And more so, I had to decide to take time out for God.
Altogether, I hope I learned a lesson from this. Taking care of our bodies is more important than trying to keep up with the Joneses. A woman’s body when she is pregnant is no way near normal what her body is like when she is not. We go through so many changes and not to mention, the added baby weight that comes with it. It is just not wise to try to go over and above what our bodies tell us. God in His wisdom knows how much our body could handle. He is not going to punish me if I take time to rest in His care nor if my home is not magazine style decorated for the holidays. He has commanded us to take care of our bodies (1 Corinthians 6:19-20) which is very pleasing in His sight.
How are you this holiday season? Are you stressed with all the planning and the hustle and bustle that come with it? Is your body telling you to slow down but you are ignoring it like me. Remember, our bodies are God’s temple and He wants us to take care of what He has given to us. Slow down, my friends, and take non-selfish time to take care of your selves. If you need to, use a planner and other record keeping item to create “non-overwhelming” to do lists so you won’t get burned out! There are some great ones floating around the web at this time of the year or you can even create your own! I know this post was a little lengthy, but thanks for reading or skimming through it. And I hope you take time and don’t crash like I did!
She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness (Proverbs 31:27, KJV).