Do you ever find yourself knowing you need to change an area in your life because you “no longer can” but you just keep putting it off? You keep pushing and pressing hoping that something will work out so you would not have to change it? Such is my situation. For too long I have let blogging be the center stage of how I do things. I know I needed a change but I just kept pressing on and pressing on. If you are a blogger, you know how great it feels to share your ideas with others but you also know that it is a LOT of work! I’m sharing some behind the scenes with you today about where I’m at with blogging and a change I’m making.
If you’ve been following along here for sometime, you may have seen how drastically my posts have gone down over the past few months, some intentionally and others unintentionally. A while ago, I evaluated myself and realized that every spare second I had free was been used to blog (either creating something for a post, taking photos for a post, editing photos for a post, typing a post, editing a post, or posting a post). If I was not doing that then I was promoting a post on social media or browsing and reading others posts.
I’m often asked, “how do I blog with small children at home”. The truth is, it’s a struggle.
You may have heard the term, “mommy by day and blogger by night”. While I may have not used this term, in so many ways it describes me. I cannot tell you how many times I’ve stayed up until the wee hours of the morning to work on the blog. I would stay up until anywhere around 2, 3, 4 am. Other times, I’d go to bed at 4 and woke up at 6 if I had a post I was trying to post that day. In fact, there were even some nights where I got no sleep at all. Literally. I’d be up all night, jump into bed at 6:am hoping to catch a few minutes of sleep before the kids woke up. That was not good at all. This was a while though because I’ve decided several months ago that “enough was enough”. I’ve taken back my nights and going to bed earlier. Rarely do I stay up even past 12:00 am. It feels great not to be staying up so late working on the blog. I have more energy and I don’t feel sluggish, depending on coffee to carry me through the day.
Along with blogging late nights, the kids naptime were used to catch up on the blog too. The girls are past the age of consistent daily naptime and our youngest have been giving up his daily naps for several weeks now. The girls used to do “quiet” time or rest time in their rooms but now with our son not napping, it is becoming a challenge. I’ve tried to get him to nap but there is literally no sleep. So he’s been sitting next to me catching a show or something on the ipad/phone but it’s not long before he wants to go see the girls. Two year old kids don’t quite understand the concept of quiet time, yet.
Those two main times were when I did blogging. Trying to blog when the kids are awake and up and about is next to impossible. I’ve tried it a few times when they were playing nicely but really did not get any where far. Five minutes before they’re calling or needing help with something.
As am mom of littles, I just cannot keep blogging two to three times weekly anymore. It was easier to blog when we only had one kid. She was the making of so many of my kids activities and family posts. But with two more littles added, it’s not easy to be consistent with blogging. I used to wonder how so many moms with small children were able to find balance, run successful blogs and even write books and all kinds of stuff. And why it is that I myself could not have a great balance that so many talk about. Why can’t my content be better? Why couldn’t I just get it together? Then I realized they had something (behind the scenes) that I did not have. It’s called HELP. More and more, I’m realizing that a lot of mom or successful bloggers have a ton of help behind the scenes: babysitters, blog helpers, parent helpers, etc. I’m totally not bringing down anyone, though.. I’m only saying that comparing our lives to theirs probably is not the best thing to do. I’ve tried to find that balance but things just keeps getting a bit more un-manageable with the changing needs of our little ones.
I’ve been wanting to make a change but did not know where to start so I kept pushing myself beyond unreasonable limits. Blogging gets addicting but it’s not a priority although I’ve made it so. My blog is not our main income neither is it generating any kind of passive income. I do it because it’s something I enjoy and I love sharing my little ideas with others. In fact, since I re-branded, things have not really gotten far along and I choose priority over blogging. In Evaluating myself and taking a break this summer has really been a turning point for me. It got me away from the blog some. It felt really great not to be “stressing” over it. And it was free-ing. But most importantly, it made me see so many areas I was neglecting and other areas where I was not learning and growing and this gave me the urge to make a change. As an example, sometimes I just want to read a book with a few minutes of quiet rather than having to always think blogging. There are other areas I’ve been working on but really getting no where because all the time goes to blogging. I get that it’s all about balance which apparently, I don’t have right now. Ps. It’s taken me about 5 days to finish this post and that’s with no taking and and editing photos.
News Flash: We’ve added homeschool to our plate for our little ones. We’ve actually recently started. Now that we’ve added this phase, I definitely don’t see any way I could try to manage it all. I have to send in progress reports for our first grader to the school program we chose and therefore, need to make sure the work is done in the correct way. It’s not hard work (video/books) but we do need to stay on top of things since we’re home. We’re so used to not having anything to adhere to on on the agenda.
So with that being said, where does that place the blog? I plan to blog less for now. I do have a bunch of posts in the making that maybe that I’ve already worked on and others I’m working on that I’ll post one a week or two weeks or … I really don’t have a schedule right now. But I do I know, I desire to work on content rather than just constantly posting for the sake of it. I still love you blog but I need to figure you out and find that balance.
I do appreciate your support in this decision and what you’ve always given. After all, readers help build your blog. If you are a blogger, how do you manage it all? Do you stay up late or do you have some additional help? What is your average amount of time for writing a post?